在不久前终于知道为什么在之前的工作地方突然间有这么多小人。虽然我在职场上一直都会遇到小人，但是也没有这么多。不知道原因的人可能以为我有人际关系上的问题或有人格问题。其实根本就是那些小人有问题，才会处处针对我，讲我的不是。他们太可怕了!

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我的想法

小人很可怕; 有暴力倾向的小人更可怕。偏偏很多慈善机构似乎就是很喜欢凭请这样的人。难道这些慈善机构的领导层不知道很多中途转换跑道的人都没有什么好心肠吗? 难道他们不懂这些中途转换跑道的人很多时候都是因为被裁退等等原因才想进入慈善机构的吗? 后者很多时候都不是基于想帮助不幸的人才想加入慈善机构的。 难道领导层真的不懂吗? 难道慈善机构因为欠缺人才或有空缺就该随便凭请人吗? 至少该有基本原则吧? 不应该因为欠缺人才或有空缺而随便凭请人吧?  真可悲。。。

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In order for a person to work in a charity (regardless of the position), I believe that the top prerequisite is to have a good heart. Sadly and ironically, a lot of people at my workplace have hearts that are inclined towards evil (or are full of evil).

 

 

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Food for Thought

Someone commented today that she'd rather let me be her counsellor than let my counsellor colleague be her counsellor, even though I'm not trained in counselling. She said something to the effect that there must be rapport between a counsellor and a counsellee in order for counselling to be effective. I agree! In fact, in all helping relationships, rapport is one crucial element. Having head knowledge of counselling theories, et cetera will never be good enough, if a counsellor is unable or unwilling to bring himself or herself down to the level of his or her counsellee. How can rapport be established if a counsellor fails to bring himself or herself down to the level of his or her counsellee? 

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In the context of my workplace, I think it's terribly unwise to employ a counsellor who's not effectively bilingual. There'll be times when she's required to provide counselling to Mandarin-speaking clients. And if family members or relatives are not available to do the translation for her, her colleagues will have to help. Man-hours are put to waste as a result. And if two people are employed to do the same amount of work that was previously done by one person or if more people are employed to do less amount of work, it's not only a waste of manpower, it's also a waste of financial resources. All these should not have happened, especially when it's a charity that relies on government funding and donations (from companies and individuals). I'm very amazed that the management of a charity that had its IPC revoked in the past does not seem to have learnt its lesson. 

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My boss once arrogantly insisted that the intellectually disabled - including those who are high-functioning - cannot be counselled to change their behaviours because, according to her, they can never change. But I didn't agree and I still don't agree with her view. I believe that those who are high-functioning can be counselled to change their behaviours if the counsellor employs behaviour modification techniques or some other appropriate techniques.

 

 

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Sometimes pain can only be felt and no words or language can adequately give it shape...and silence in its presence is the only fitting companion.

~~Gracia Wiarda (in a book entitled "Labyrinth of Therapeutic Encounters. Collected Essays on Counselling & Psychotherapy")

I agree absolutely. Sometimes all a counsellor ever needs to do is being silent in the presence of a client who is grieving or experiencing some kind of pain.

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