Food for Thought

Sometimes it's necessary to shut certain people out of your life to protect your sanity.

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Food for Thought

The capacity to be alone is also an aspect of emotional maturity.

~ Anthony Storr (Quoted by Marti Olsen Laney, author of The Introvert Advantage)

 



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"Emotional labor," which is the effort we make to control and change our own emotions, is associated with stress, burnout, and even physical symptoms like an increase in cardiovascular disease.
~ Susan Cain (Author of Quiet)

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好几个月前开始发现除了我的大老板所派的私家侦探之外，似乎还有其他人也派了私家侦探跟踪我。。。其中一个很过分。。。他似乎指示他所派的私家侦探要明目张胆出现在我面前！！ 这些男人真的太过分了，竟然一直侵犯我的隐私！！！ 害我要约家人或朋友出去，（很多时候）都不敢。。。毕竟有些话题只适合跟某些人讲。。。（而且我比较喜欢面对面讲。。。通过电话就是似乎少了什么的）虽然我很享受独处，也很重视独处，但是人毕竟不是‘孤屿’啊。。。如果派私家侦探跟踪我的人只是想多了解我，我勉强可以接受 （当然最好是不要啦！）。。。但是我无法接受我大老板派私家侦探跟踪我，因为他是站在我敌人那一边的！！！

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在我工作的地方有太多小人。。。一般上，小人的心肠（多多少少）都是邪恶的。。。我所有的社工同事（包括主管以及副主管）的心肠就是如此。。。太可怕了。。。偏偏我的大老板就是喜欢聘请这样的人。。。太有损社工的形象了。。。真叫人感叹。。。

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Decluttering

I think I am now ready for love.:p I have done quite a fair bit of decluttering lately. And somehow decluttering of the physical environment seems to help me remove my emotional clutter layer by layer. 

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Decluttering

Decluttering really works.:) I could feel a positive shift in energy. Things are changing at the spiritual, physical and emotional/mental levels.:)

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Food for Thought

Grief is a process. It can't be rushed. It can't be pushed. It takes its time...As long as grief keeps moving and flowing, it is a healthy process of letting go...(We) should not try to push (our) grief away, even if it seems to come at "inconvenient" times or take (us) by surprise. This is a healthy and necessary process of letting go.

~ Lauren Rosenfeld & Dr Melva Green (Authors of Breathing Room)

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Decluttering

In the past few weeks, I had been trying to remove some clutter in my room. And it so happened that I decided to spend the last two days and today 'decluttering' my inner being. And you know what? Yesterday, I decided to buy myself a book and one book seemed to be 'calling out' to me. Can you believe that the book is about decluttering one's physical, emotional and mental spaces?! All these might seem to be coincidental, but I don't think so. Decluttering must take place in order for a new life to be birthed and for healing to take place.

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My Thoughts

According to a colleague, writing is therapeutic. I agree absolutely. Writing helps me to release negative emotions and negative thoughts. It helps me to get unstuck. That's why I like writing, and in particular, writing songs. 

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Social Work

I just read an article in the Straits Times (dated 6 Jul 2013), entitled The Price of Not Raising Social Workers' Pay. I like what the writer (Ms Ang Bee Lian) has written. Incidentally, the writer is the Chief Executive of the National Council of Social Service.

 

In the article, Ms Ang wrote about the 'personal risk many social workers undertake when they work in difficult situations where they intervene to protect vulnerable people...' This brought to my mind an incident that happened years ago when I visited a totally blind elderly client, who lived with a mentally ill son. During the visit, her son suddenly came out of the kitchen with a knife and aimed it at me. Fortunately, nothing happened. Another personal risk that social workers may face is the possibility of being raped. (I have heard about social workers being raped in Hong Kong.)

 

Besides personal risk, social workers may also face sexual harassment. Personally, I have experienced that on many occasions. :( It can be a mental torture. :(

 

I'd like to quote part of the last paragraph in the article:-

 

The question should not be whether we can afford to pay social workers a competitive wage, but whether we can afford not to, and leave social issues and social injustice to fester...

 

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Food for Thought



If you respond intellectually to everything, then your emotional and other systems are paying the price.

~ Laura Day (Author of The Circle)

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Cheating

Chronic cheating is rooted in an emotional emptiness that can give people the need to feel constantly desired.

~Dr. Debbie Magids (Quoted by Yahoo at http://ph.she.yahoo.com/why-guys-cheat-on-hot-women-083947236.html)

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我不再在乎别人怎么看我，毕竟清者自清。学会释怀是一种解脱。

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Appreciating Ourselves

If we appreciate who we are, as opposed to appreciating ourselves for what we do based on someone else's idea of what is good, our performance in the world will come from an inspired and healthy place, rather than from one that is subconsciously seeking the approval and attention of others.

~~Jaia Lee (Author of Living Beyond Belief)

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I'm in the process of doing 'mental detox' and I guess it's important to do that on a regular basis.

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