有些关系是无法修补的 (有些人是完全不值得被原谅的)，因为其中一方对另一方所造成的伤害实在是太多次了，也实在是太深了，尤其是当一方还继续伤害着另一方。如果没有身在其中是无法理解的。

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I can never trust people who are sneaky, especially men. I would rather choose someone who has nothing to hide than someone who is sneaky, 因为一个心里没有鬼的男人才能让我放心。。。

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没开始之前或一开始就有所隐瞒或不够坦承的关系是注定不能走到最后的，所以与其给对方机会，倒不如不给机会。。。

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As this year is coming to an end soon, it's time to make resolutions for 2015. In 2015, I hope I'll make it a habit to openly appreciate people who are genuinely kind to me, people who don't initiate sins against me and people who don't gang up with others against me.

Today, I told three people that I appreciated them for being kind to me in one way or another. Why? It's because I've encountered too many evil people  - people who have plotted evil against me without me sinning against them and others who have ganged up with these people - at work this year.





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There are so many troublemakers at my workplace...sigh...:( They seem to enjoy being troublemakers and making life miserable for others. Without these troublemakers, my workplace would be such a peaceful place. :) And without these troublemakers, I'd not have to waste SO MUCH precious time protecting my files, etc, etc. If my big boss would remove existing troublemakers and stop employing troublemakers, I'm sure it'd boost overall productivity and morale at work.

 

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最近在金钱上帮了一个人。。。一个以恶报恩的人。。。觉得帮得很不值得。。。I have zero tolerance for ingrates, especially those who repay my kindness with evil!!! 因为她，我有可能今年底不可以出国旅行了。。。:( 我并不是要她感激我。。。但是她就是不应该以恶报恩。。。那是做人最基本的原则。。。她又不是我的亲人, 也不是我的朋友, 所以我没有义务帮她。。。我最憎恨那些以恶报恩的人!!!

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好几个月前开始发现除了我的大老板所派的私家侦探之外，似乎还有其他人也派了私家侦探跟踪我。。。其中一个很过分。。。他似乎指示他所派的私家侦探要明目张胆出现在我面前！！ 这些男人真的太过分了，竟然一直侵犯我的隐私！！！ 害我要约家人或朋友出去，（很多时候）都不敢。。。毕竟有些话题只适合跟某些人讲。。。（而且我比较喜欢面对面讲。。。通过电话就是似乎少了什么的）虽然我很享受独处，也很重视独处，但是人毕竟不是‘孤屿’啊。。。如果派私家侦探跟踪我的人只是想多了解我，我勉强可以接受 （当然最好是不要啦！）。。。但是我无法接受我大老板派私家侦探跟踪我，因为他是站在我敌人那一边的！！！

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小人实在太可怕了！你不需要去招惹他们，他们也会‘主动’来招惹你、攻击你。。。他们甚至会不择手段去对付你。。。because their hearts are inclined towards evil。。。小人可能会给自己找借口，说什么‘他们只是在玩办公室政治，没什么大不了的。。。别人也在玩啊，不是吗？’之类的借口。。。其实如果他们敢面对真实的自己，他们就会（至少对自己）承认他们的心是邪恶的。。。也许他们会继续做缺德的事，以为不会有报应的。。。或许他们不相信报应这回事。。。但是不相信并不表示它不存在。。。也许报应会降临在他们家人身上。。。又或许报应会降临在他们后代身上。。。宁可信其有，不要宁可信其无。。。这才是明智的抉择。。。

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表面上看起来，别人可能会觉得你很难搞、很难相处，但是一个有智慧的人、一个明眼人就会看得出其实是那些小人难搞、难相处。

 

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在我工作的地方有太多小人。。。一般上，小人的心肠（多多少少）都是邪恶的。。。我所有的社工同事（包括主管以及副主管）的心肠就是如此。。。太可怕了。。。偏偏我的大老板就是喜欢聘请这样的人。。。太有损社工的形象了。。。真叫人感叹。。。

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My Thoughts 我的想法

Sometimes when it's too late to do damage control, it'll not help at all no matter how hard you try. 所以做人千万不要做得太过分，因为等你需要别人宽恕你、包容你的时候，别人未必愿意。

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Some people simply enjoy bullying others and yet are thick-skinned enough to pretend to be fair in front of their bosses. They are such despicable hypocrites! They are probably thinking that they will continue to be spared from judgment/punishment just because they have been spared all these years. There is a season for everything and their season for judgment/punishment is probably near at hand.

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Insecurity

You should work on your insecurity issues instead of putting me down (in front of me and behind me time and again) in terms of my looks and the way I dress just because I have more admirers than you.

 

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人为什么要勾心斗角？为什么不能和平相处？如果能处身在一个与世无争的世界，犹如人间天堂般, 那有多好。。。

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10 Men You Should Never Date

Every office has one and although the office flirt is charming, good looking and makes you feel like the prettiest girl in the world, they make bad boyfriends. This is because once they are in a relationship they will struggle to stop flirting; fooling around with other women is part of their personality. Although this isn’t to say they would ever cheat or take their flirting further, how comfortable would you be with that?

~ Quoted from http://lifestyle.xin.msn.com/en/sex-relationship/10-men-you-should-never-date#image=8

I'll never want to date a flirt because, like what the article says, 'fooling around with other women is part of (his) personality'.

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I will NEVER want a playboy because I love and respect myself, and I certainly deserve a worthy and faithful man.
 

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My Thoughts

Only those with wicked hearts will keep bullying others.

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Workplace Bullies

If the writer I mentioned in the earlier post were to work in a non-profit organisation, he would probably be very disheartened because the bullying he might encounter in such an organisation could be many times worse than what he had experienced at his recent workplace. So, if you are aspiring to become social workers or if you are hoping to work in a non-profit organisation, please do not have the expectation that you will be working alongside angelic social workers or colleagues (non-social work colleagues).



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Workplace Bullies

I just read an article in www.therealsingapore.com. The writer talked about workplace bullies who are FTs. I can relate to how he feels about the bullying, because I am often bullied at work. :(  Specifically, he mentioned about how his foreign superiors had bullied him. At least he could take comfort in the fact that the foreigners who had bullied him were his superiors, not colleagues or subordinates. I am not being sarcastic, because I have ever been bullied by foreigners who are not even my superiors. (This is a 'sick' world with a lot of 'sick' people.)

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My Thoughts

A true follower of any religion will never bully or take advantage of another person. Likewise, he (she) will never initiate sins against a fellow human being.  I despise those who call themselves Christians but yet are so 'unchristian' in the way they treat fellow Christians and people of other faiths.  Even though I am far from being godly, but at least I will never bully or take advantage of another person. Neither will I initiate sins against another person. 

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