Food for Thought

The important thing is to find songs that speak to you.

~ Germaine Yong (Quoted from this link: https://diaryofabipolarsingaporeangirl.wordpress.com/2015/12/08/qa-music-therapy-and-mental-health/)

True...There are times when I am feeling down and songs that I have written suddenly begin to play in my mind, which really help to lift up my mood.

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Sometimes it's necessary to shut certain people out of your life to protect your sanity.

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The capacity to be alone is also an aspect of emotional maturity.

~ Anthony Storr (Quoted by Marti Olsen Laney, author of The Introvert Advantage)

 



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"Emotional labor," which is the effort we make to control and change our own emotions, is associated with stress, burnout, and even physical symptoms like an increase in cardiovascular disease.
~ Susan Cain (Author of Quiet)

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There are too many things that are going on at my workplace that are not right...sigh...真的累了。。。太累了。。。好渴望独处， 因为（足够时间的）独处能让我好好的充电。。。好好的规划我的未来。。。真的太累了。。。

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好几个月前开始发现除了我的大老板所派的私家侦探之外，似乎还有其他人也派了私家侦探跟踪我。。。其中一个很过分。。。他似乎指示他所派的私家侦探要明目张胆出现在我面前！！ 这些男人真的太过分了，竟然一直侵犯我的隐私！！！ 害我要约家人或朋友出去，（很多时候）都不敢。。。毕竟有些话题只适合跟某些人讲。。。（而且我比较喜欢面对面讲。。。通过电话就是似乎少了什么的）虽然我很享受独处，也很重视独处，但是人毕竟不是‘孤屿’啊。。。如果派私家侦探跟踪我的人只是想多了解我，我勉强可以接受 （当然最好是不要啦！）。。。但是我无法接受我大老板派私家侦探跟踪我，因为他是站在我敌人那一边的！！！

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在我工作的地方有太多小人。。。一般上，小人的心肠（多多少少）都是邪恶的。。。我所有的社工同事（包括主管以及副主管）的心肠就是如此。。。太可怕了。。。偏偏我的大老板就是喜欢聘请这样的人。。。太有损社工的形象了。。。真叫人感叹。。。

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Decluttering

I think I am now ready for love.:p I have done quite a fair bit of decluttering lately. And somehow decluttering of the physical environment seems to help me remove my emotional clutter layer by layer. 

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Decluttering

Decluttering really works.:) I could feel a positive shift in energy. Things are changing at the spiritual, physical and emotional/mental levels.:)

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Grief is a process. It can't be rushed. It can't be pushed. It takes its time...As long as grief keeps moving and flowing, it is a healthy process of letting go...(We) should not try to push (our) grief away, even if it seems to come at "inconvenient" times or take (us) by surprise. This is a healthy and necessary process of letting go.

~ Lauren Rosenfeld & Dr Melva Green (Authors of Breathing Room)

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Decluttering

In the past few weeks, I had been trying to remove some clutter in my room. And it so happened that I decided to spend the last two days and today 'decluttering' my inner being. And you know what? Yesterday, I decided to buy myself a book and one book seemed to be 'calling out' to me. Can you believe that the book is about decluttering one's physical, emotional and mental spaces?! All these might seem to be coincidental, but I don't think so. Decluttering must take place in order for a new life to be birthed and for healing to take place.

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If you respond intellectually to everything, then your emotional and other systems are paying the price.

~ Laura Day (Author of The Circle)

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Cheating

Chronic cheating is rooted in an emotional emptiness that can give people the need to feel constantly desired.

~Dr. Debbie Magids (Quoted by Yahoo at http://ph.she.yahoo.com/why-guys-cheat-on-hot-women-083947236.html)

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...too much specialization is, frankly, detrimental to your well-being and emotional, cognitive, intellectual, and psychological development.

~ Ingrid E. Cummings (Author of The Vigorous Mind)

 

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Mental Illness

I have two friends who are schizophrenic, whom I have known for many years. Their families have put up with their 'schizophrenic attacks' for more years than I have known them.

I can't imagine how life is like living under the same roof with a family member who suffers from schizophrenia. To say that it's tough is an understatement (at least from my point of view). To remain sane living with such a family member over a prolonged period of time is a major challenge, if not a near impossibilty.

Although I know that I am supposed to reach out to the mentally ill, I am no longer passionate about reaching out to them. One of the aforesaid friends has worn my patience thin by calling me frequently when she has 'schizophrenic attacks' (even in the middle of the night). In the past, I would have obliged her without due regard to my own well-being. However, over the years, I have learnt that self care is very important and so I am now practically avoiding her calls.

If I am not able to practise self care, then how can I really care for other people without sabotaging my (working) relationship or friendship with them? Therefore, I believe that genuine care for a fellow human being must start with self care regardless of whether one is working in the helping profession or not.

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常常处在紧张状态中，对一个人的心理、生理都不好。所以，懂得如何让心情放晴是重要的。


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Mental Illness

I have always thought that women are generally more prone to mental illness because they are emotionally more vulnerable. Just now I saw a mentally ill young man (who appeared to be in his mid thirties), which brought to mind the number of mentally ill men whom I came across in the past one year. What could cause these people (and many others) to go bonkers? Is it extreme suffering or pain? Is it mental or emotional anguish that could find no outlet? On reflection, I am thankful that I have the mental & emotional fortitude to withstand the many trials that have come my way thus far.

我一直都认为女性较容易患上精神病，因为她们在情感上较为脆弱。刚才，我看到一位年轻的男精神病患者。这让我想起在过去的一年里所见过的男精神病患者。是什么原因造成这些人（以及很多其他人）的精神失常呢？是极度的痛苦吗？是精神或情感上的痛楚无法得到释放吗？我庆幸自己在精神与情感方面有一股刚强的力量，让我能经得起一切的考验。

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Benefits of Using Huang Yang Mu Comb (使用黄杨木梳子的好处)

I watched an infotainment programme on xinmsn.com yesterday. In this episode, one of the guests, Bryan mentioned about the benefits of using this particular type of comb. According to him, using this type of comb could help in blood circulation, prevent stroke, aid in hair growth, etc. So, I am going to get one for myself! :)

昨天，我在网上观看了一个资讯娱乐节目。在这一集，其中一名嘉宾，Bryan 告诉观众有关使用黄杨木梳子的好处。使用这种梳子可以帮助血液循环、避免脑中风、帮助头发生长等等。所以我打算买一把来使用！:)

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Field of Intention

By raising your energy to a vibrational match with the field of intention, you're strengthening your immune system and increasing the production of well-being enzymes in your brain.

~~Dr Wayne W. Dyer (Author of The Invisible Force)

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我会好的 I Will Be Well

我刚刚·心血来潮写了这首歌的副歌部分。我好喜欢它的旋律。:) 写这首歌的原因是因为昨天突然间想到好多年前做的一个梦。在梦里，我看见三组人：眼睛瞎的、在监牢服刑的以及患有精神病的。当时上帝好像是要叫我服侍这三组人。我已经服侍了前两组人，所以可能接下来会服侍第三组人。我也可能会继续写疗伤的歌曲吧。

I have just composed the chorus of this song. I like the melody very much. :) The reason why I have started writing this song is because yesterday I suddenly recalled a dream that I had many years ago. In that dream, I saw three groups of people: the blind, the prisoners and the mentally unwell. At that time, it seemed that God wanted me to serve these three groups of people. I have already served the first two groups, and so I might be serving the third group of people in the near future. There is also a possibility that I might continue writing songs of healing.

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