Food for Thought

How you make others feel about themselves says a lot about you. 

~ Vicki Yohe (Shared by Joyce Chapman on FB)

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在过去的六个半月，让我认清了身边一些朋友的真面目。原来对一些所谓的朋友而言，为了个人利益或其他理由，朋友是可以出卖的。或许对他们来说，朋友并不是交心的对象，而友情也只不过是一种交易罢了。这些所谓的朋友让我觉得非常的心寒。

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My Thoughts

When someone means a lot to you, you will consciously or subconsciously be interested in anything that reminds you of him or her. So, for instance, if that person is an Indian, you will be interested in places like India and Little India (in Singapore). You will also be interested in any Hindu festivals and anything else that is 'Indian'. You do not need to study psychology to know these things. You just need to be aware of your own feelings. 难道你一点自觉都没有吗? 不要再自欺欺人了，好吗? 

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When people enter or re-enter your life with ulterior motives...心寒。。。真的。。。

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I can never trust people who are sneaky, especially men. I would rather choose someone who has nothing to hide than someone who is sneaky, 因为一个心里没有鬼的男人才能让我放心。。。

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没开始之前或一开始就有所隐瞒或不够坦承的关系是注定不能走到最后的，所以与其给对方机会，倒不如不给机会。。。

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在不久前终于知道为什么在之前的工作地方突然间有这么多小人。虽然我在职场上一直都会遇到小人，但是也没有这么多。不知道原因的人可能以为我有人际关系上的问题或有人格问题。其实根本就是那些小人有问题，才会处处针对我，讲我的不是。他们太可怕了!

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Maybe I shouldn't consider any of those guys who've been sending PIs to check on me, because they've already found out so much about me whereas I know next to nothing about them or not much about them. 

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Lessons Learnt

1. You could be the best employee in your department/company. But as long as your supervisor does not like you or feels that you are a threat to him/her (because of his/her own insecurities), you can expect that he/she would rather keep those who are incompetent or lousy than to keep you.

2. There is no guarantee that you will get to keep your job or get a promotion at work just because your boss likes you (in the romantic sense).

3. If your boss likes you (in the romantic sense) but if you do not reciprocate, you can expect that he/she may turn nasty or he/she may not want to keep you, even if you are the best employee.

4. It may not be a good thing to be liked by your supervisor/boss, if he/she is of the opposite gender or if he/she is a homosexual.

5. Being pretty/handsome or charming may not be a good thing, unless you are prepared to use your good looks or charm to your advantage and face the possibility of betraying your conscience in the process.

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Food for Thought

...growth means feeling a little bit new to yourself. An insulated life may protect you from unpleasant feelings, but it also limits you from having experiences and meeting people, both of which might help you and bring you delights you never imagined or thought possible.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

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我只不过是你生命中的一个小插曲, 一个过客罢了。。。而她才是那个会陪着你一辈子的女人。。。难道你没有发觉自己离不开她吗??? 她无形中已经成为了你生命不可或缺的一部份了。。。她不只是你事业上的好伙伴，也是那个跟你心灵相通的女人。。。你和她见面的次数相当频繁，而且很明显的你心里依然留着她的位子。。。你明明还是很喜欢她。。。我曾问自己能够接受这样的你吗 ? 我理性的答案是我不能够。。。因为这样的你太让我没有安全感了。。。难道你不知道女人注重的是安全感吗??? 我不否认自己曾经很在意你跟她见面的次数太过频繁， 也曾经很在意你常常似乎有意无意的'隐瞒'你跟她见面的'讯息'，还有你们之间的互动。。。但是刚才在脸书上又看到你跟她见面的照片时，我心里却是少了那份妒忌，也少了那份伤感。。。或许是因为我对你已经释怀了吧。。。又或许是因为你明明知道我想要的工作跟你目前的行业有关，而你却完全不原意帮我牵线。。。我在想。。。我是否能够接受这样的你 ~ 一个袖手旁观的你??? 我理性的答案是我不能够。。。你应该把聘请私家侦探来跟踪我的钱存起来，用在你跟她的未来。。。毕竟你根本就不可能放下她。。。你也不可能会为了我而跟她断绝所有往来。。。

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我是无法接受一个知道我被欺负了却不把它当一回事，或不原意站出来替我挣回一口气的男人。所以，在感情方面，是时候让一切归零了。。。

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刚刚在网上观看了《莫非这就是爱》下一集的预告片，当中的一位女演员就跟女主角大概说了这样的一句话：一个能帮你解决问题的男人才是适合的对象。目前的我认同这句话。最近被职场上邪恶的小人陷害而丢了工作，我觉得非常委屈。。。若有男人愿意为我挣回一口气 （除了那没用的MT之外），我应该会很感动。。。也应该会觉得他就是那个适合自己的男人。。。

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Food for Thought



Energy conservation is also why we are very interested in other people but sometimes prefer to observe others rather than join them.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 

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Food for Thought

Introverts aren't unsocial - they are just social in a different way. Introverts need fewer relationships, but they like more connection and intimacy. Since it takes a great deal of our energy to engage with other people, we are reluctant to need to spend too much energy on socializing. That's why we don't enjoy idle chitchat.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 

YES! I'm definitely NOT antisocial, although that seems to be the general impression people have of me.

 



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Food for Thought

Rather than bring self-centred, introverts are often really the opposite. Our ability to focus on our internal world and reflect on what we are feeling and experiencing allows us to understand the external world and other human beings better. What appears to be self-centredness is actually the very talent that provides the capacity to understand what it's like to put ourselves in someone else's shoes.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 

So true!

 



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Food for Thought

如果你真正喜欢一个人，你会很原意为对方付出。And if you are in a position to help but yet not willing to do so, then you really need to ask yourself: 我是真心喜欢对方吗? 或只是想占有对方罢了? 

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表面上的关心与发自内心的关心是有区别的。。。或许只有拥有智慧或拥有敏锐的第六感的人才能察觉得到吧。。。

 



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虽然我脸皮厚，但我也会有羞涩的时候啊，尤其是碰到自己喜欢的男人。。。难道男人不懂这个简单的道理吗？？？哎哟！真伤脑筋！

 



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Food for Thought

If you want to be popular, you will misgovern.

 

~ The late Mr Lee Kuan Yew (Quoted by Mr Sidek Saniff, former Senior Minister of State, in his eulogy)

 

So true...

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