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...good design is adaptive...you design for maximum flexibility and adaptability.

~ Ralf St. Clair (Author of Creating Courses for Adults: Design for Learning)

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Context drives design.

~ Ralf St. Clair (Author of Creating Courses for Adults: Design for Learning)

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One aspect of responsive teaching is providing the same content at different levels of complexity.

~ Ralf St. Clair (Author of Creating Courses for Adults: Design for Learning)

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The important thing is to find songs that speak to you.

~ Germaine Yong (Quoted from this link: https://diaryofabipolarsingaporeangirl.wordpress.com/2015/12/08/qa-music-therapy-and-mental-health/)

True...There are times when I am feeling down and songs that I have written suddenly begin to play in my mind, which really help to lift up my mood.

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The past seven months had been a period of rude awakening for me. 

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How you make others feel about themselves says a lot about you. 

~ Vicki Yohe (Shared by Joyce Chapman on FB)

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Food for Thought

When you are teaching, your personality, your approach, and your values influence the form and outcomes of the process.

~ Ralf St. Clair (Author of Creating Courses for Adults: Design for Learning)

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But it's also important to allow space for the learners to influence the shape of their own learning.

~ Ralf St. Clair (Author of Creating Courses for Adults: Design for Learning)

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Your value does not decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.

~ Unknown (Shared by Ghostpoet on FB)

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...the reason why this therapy works is because humans are biologically wired for music.

~ http://www.theepochtimes.com/n3/1915139-music-therapy-more-powerful-than-you-might-expect/ (Shared by Singapore Music Therapy Symposiums on FB)

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When your life is put on hold by some XXX against your will (thereby resulting in a huge financial burden to you), who should you blame? 

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Food for Thought

I had a sudden thought this morning. Happy memories will have a positive effect on the health of the cells in our bodies, thereby influencing our overall health. Conversely, unhappy memories will cause our cells to suffer, thereby adversely affecting our health. If my hypothesis is correct, then it is important for us to make a conscious effort to create happy memories by focusing on happy moments.

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Enforcing the same learning on all students, as some have mistakenly advocated on the basis of "standards," slows down the most capable students and leaves behind those already struggling, creates inappropriate limitations on what students can accomplish, and in effect, dumbs down teaching and learning.

~ Richard Beach, Amanda Haertling Thein & Allen Webb (Authors of Teaching to Exceed the English Language Arts Common Core State Standards: Literacy Practices Approach for 6 - 12 Classrooms)

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Check out this link: www.facebook.com/TheHandsFreeRevolution/photos/a.149731118410856.36823.148689625181672/1039609819422977/?type=3&theater

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《梦的翅膀》

刚才写了这首歌。。。还没填曲。。。应该会做一些修改。。。

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在过去的六个半月，让我认清了身边一些朋友的真面目。原来对一些所谓的朋友而言，为了个人利益或其他理由，朋友是可以出卖的。或许对他们来说，朋友并不是交心的对象，而友情也只不过是一种交易罢了。这些所谓的朋友让我觉得非常的心寒。

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Food for Thought

I just read an article, which states that memories can actually be passed from one generation to the next. It's incredible! Check out the article at http://www.collective-evolution.com/2015/11/12/researchers-discover-that-memories-can-be-passed-down-through-changes-in-our-dna/. (Joyce Chapman shared this link on FB)

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有些关系是无法修补的 (有些人是完全不值得被原谅的)，因为其中一方对另一方所造成的伤害实在是太多次了，也实在是太深了，尤其是当一方还继续伤害着另一方。如果没有身在其中是无法理解的。

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这个世界怎么了?

为什么好人往往被人欺负， 而邪恶的人却是那么受欢迎? 为什么好人常被视为坏人, 而坏人却常被视为好人? 为什么有罪的人会让人怜悯，而无罪的人却被定为有罪? 一个问题家庭的'罪人'明明就是一家之主，但为什么针头却会指向那个往往是最无辜的? 有何天理? 这个世界到底怎么了? 

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When it's a political party that's 'blocking' your access to employment...

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A Quote

Remember those who help you in difficult times;

Remember those who leave you in difficult times;

Remember those who put you in difficult times.

~ Pininterest

(I saw the above quote on Pininterest but couldn't locate it now. The wording may differ from the original quote.)

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My Thoughts

I enjoy solitude but I do not really enjoy outdoor solitary activities. However, I guess I have to learn to enjoy them, given the fact that there are so many XXX tracking my every movement, et cetera. (They have even gone to the extent of trying to involve my family!) They are really getting on my nerves and seriously speaking, I feel harassed! But it seems that harassment is not considered an offence in Singapore.:( Even if it is an offence and I can therefore lodge a police report, but I do not even trust the police. However, that is beside the point. 

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《我想说》

今天写了一首新歌。。。感叹这几年所写的歌似乎大不如前。。。最近更是碰到了创作的瓶颈。。。原本打算上一些音乐课程，但是因为已经失业将近半年的时间，所以得把这个计划挪后。。。觉得好无奈。。。

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My Thoughts

When someone means a lot to you, you will consciously or subconsciously be interested in anything that reminds you of him or her. So, for instance, if that person is an Indian, you will be interested in places like India and Little India (in Singapore). You will also be interested in any Hindu festivals and anything else that is 'Indian'. You do not need to study psychology to know these things. You just need to be aware of your own feelings. 难道你一点自觉都没有吗? 不要再自欺欺人了，好吗? 

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When people enter or re-enter your life with ulterior motives...心寒。。。真的。。。

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I can never trust people who are sneaky, especially men. I would rather choose someone who has nothing to hide than someone who is sneaky, 因为一个心里没有鬼的男人才能让我放心。。。

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没开始之前或一开始就有所隐瞒或不够坦承的关系是注定不能走到最后的，所以与其给对方机会，倒不如不给机会。。。

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My Thoughts

It's sad when your own siblings take advantage of you and your good nature. When you don't question their intentions but have instead chosen to trust them implicitly, and you end up being betrayed, how does that make you feel? It's certainly not a good feeling. But then when you think about it objectively, the person who ought to be ultimately blamed is actually the head of the household. In fact, all forms of dysfunction in a family are due to the failure(s) of the head. It's sad but it's true...

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...manoeuvring is such a scary thing...Sigh...

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在不久前终于知道为什么在之前的工作地方突然间有这么多小人。虽然我在职场上一直都会遇到小人，但是也没有这么多。不知道原因的人可能以为我有人际关系上的问题或有人格问题。其实根本就是那些小人有问题，才会处处针对我，讲我的不是。他们太可怕了!

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When you know you're being set up...Sigh...

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Food for Thought

It takes a wise person to recognise and appreciate rare 'gems' which, on the surface, may appear to be very ordinary.

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Maybe I shouldn't consider any of those guys who've been sending PIs to check on me, because they've already found out so much about me whereas I know next to nothing about them or not much about them. 

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Food for Thought

Sometimes it's necessary to shut certain people out of your life to protect your sanity.

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It's sad to read or hear of politicians engaging in name-calling publicly. Sigh...

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We all grow strongest in the crucible of adversity.

~ Dirk Gardner (Quoted by Ken Blanchard, Don Hutson & Ethan Willis, Authors of The One Minute Entrepreneur: The Secret to Creating and Sustaining a Successful Business)

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Food for Thought

这世界上

最富有的人

是跌倒最多的人

最勇敢的人

是每次跌倒

都能站起来的人

最成功的人

是那些每次跌倒

不单能站起来

还能坚持下去的人

~ 小三魔法棒 (小三美日)

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Food for Thought

Resistance is a signal that you are moving into a new area, however, whatever you resist persists. Do not resist the resistance. 

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General Election (GE) 2015

I was reading someone's FB post on the GE yesterday. I agree with him that the PAP must remain in power to ensure Singapore's political stability, which is essential to attract foreign investments, etc. And it's of fundamental importance for the PAP to remain in power in the long run. However, I don't agree with him that having only 'one voice' in Parliament is good enough. 

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General Election (GE) 2015

I believe this year's GE is going to have a significant impact on Singapore's future political landscape.

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Food for Thought

...an enormous amount of recent research known as neural plasticity or brain plasticity has revealed that the brain never stops changing and adjusting and is constantly revising itself.

~ Charlene Day (Author of The 30 Laws of Flow: Timeless Principles for Entrepreneurial Success)

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Food for Thought

The Law of Success has a bottom line: Real success comes when your results benefit your fellow human beings and the world is enriched.

~ Charlene Day (Author of The 30 Laws of Flow: Timeless Principles for Entrepreneurial Success)

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Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal.

~ Earl Nightingale (Quoted by Charlene Day, Author of The 30 Laws of Flow: Timeless Principles for Entrepreneurial Success)

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Success is the attainment of your definite chief aim without violating the rights of others.

~ Napoleon Hill (Quoted by Charlene Day, Author of The 30 Laws of Flow: Timeless Principles for Entrepreneurial Success)

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Apparent intuitions which coincide with strong wishes and which involve high risks should always be regarded with suspicion.

~ A.H.Z. Carr ( Author of How to Attract Good Luck: And Make the Most of It in Your Daily Life)

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...abilities often continue to develop within men until quite late in life that it is never quite fair to keep a fixed opinion of any man's potential of accomplishment without making allowance for changes in him...Too often we tend to use last year's measure to judge this year's man.

~ A.H.Z. Carr (Author of How to Attract Good Luck: And Make the Most of It in Your Daily Life)

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Food for Thought

...the formula for success was ignorance plus confidence...

~ Mark Twain (Quoted by A.H.Z Carr, Author of How to Attract Good Luck: And Make the Most of It in Your Daily Life)

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Food for Thought

The irony about human beings and life is that the distance between the heart and the head is the farthest in the world.

~ Grace Sai (CEO & Founder of The Hub Singapore)

Food for Thought

...every act of true friendship is proof of a rising luck-potential within us. Such actions are like oil, lubricating the psychological mechanism of generosity which so many allow to rust unused within them.

~ A.H.Z. Carr (Author of How to Attract Good Luck: And Make the Most of It in Your Daily Life)

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For the human mind, however ingenious and imaginative, requires constant stimulation from the external world in order to keep its sap and spring.

~ A.H.Z. Carr (Author of How to Attract Good Luck: And Make the Most of It in Your Daily Life)

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And when zest enters into life, luck is usually close behind.

~ A.H.Z Carr (Author of How to Attract Good Luck: And Make the Most of It in Your Daily Life)

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An everyday remark, uttered by chance, meshes with a person's interests -- and the result is an important new fulfillment in life.

~ A.H.Z. Carr (Author of How to Attract Good Luck: And Make the Most of It in Your Daily Life)

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A small kernel of an idea can quickly become a full-fledged brainstorm when you have like-minded people that enjoy riffing on interesting things we hear  from customers, read in the news, or dream up at happy hour.

~ Jonathan Beekman (Taken from http://www.gsb.stanford-edu/insights/jonathan-beekman-be-bold-just-go-it)

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坚持就代表了孤独。但是孤独往往会让一个人更伟大，更出色。

~ 汪峰 (中国好声音第四季导师之一)

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It Has Been So Long

New song of healing...

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Food for Thought

Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.

~ Robert T. Kiyosaki (Author of Rich Dad Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids about Money - That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not!)

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The single most powerful asset we all have is our mind. If it is trained well, it can create enormous wealth. An untrained mind can also create extreme poverty that can crush a family for generations.

~ Robert T. Kiyosaki (Author of Rich Dad Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids about Money - That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not!)

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Food for Thought

Often in the real world, it's not the smart who get ahead, but the bold.

~ Robert T. Kiyosaki (Author of Rich Dad Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids about Money - That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not!)

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Food for Thought

To spend your life living in fear, never exploring your dreams, is cruel. To work hard for money, thinking that it will buy you things that will make you happy is also cruel. To wake up in the middle of the night terrified about paying bills is a horrible way to live. To live a life dictated by the size of a paycheck is not really living a life. Thinking that a job makes you secure is lying to yourself.

~ Rich 'dad' of Robert T. Kiyosaki (Author of Rich Dad Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids about Money - That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not)

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There is a difference between being poor and being broke. Broke is temporary. Poor is eternal.

~ Rich 'dad' of Robert T. Kiyosaki (Quoted by Robert in his book, Rich Dad Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids about Money - That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not)

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...people really do shape their lives through their thoughts.

~ Robert T. Kiyosaki (Author of Rich Dad Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids about Money - That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not)

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Food for Thought

You cannot write your story or tame your Tiger from the grandstand.

~ Jim Lawless (Author of Taming Tigers: Do Things You Never Thought You Could)

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He who has a "why" to live for can bear with almost any "how".

~ Nietzsche (Quoted by Jim Lawless, Author of Taming Tigers: Do Things You Never Thought You Could)

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Food for Thought

When you are in sync with life, enormous possibilities emerge for you.

~ Stephen J. Hopson (Author of Obstacle Illusions: Transforming Adversity into Success)

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Food for Thought

If you believe that you have something special inside of you, and if you feel it's about time you gave it a shot, honor that calling in some small way -- today. If you feel a knot in your stomach because you can see the enormous distance between your dreams and your daily reality, do one thing to tighten your grip on what you want -- today. If you've been peering down the road to must but can't quite make the choice, dig a little deeper and find out what's stopping you -- today. Because there is a recurring choice in life, and it occurs at the intersection of two roads. We arrive at this place again and again.

~ Elle Luna (Author of The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion)

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Food for Thought

...who continued to play his music even while suffering from Alzheimer's for thirteen years...The plaque has apparently invaded a large amount of his brain...Almost every memory is gone. Except for the music...The evening he performed, he had no idea how to tie a tie...he got lost on the way to the stage -- but the performance? Perfect.

~ Mary Ellen Geist (Quoted by Elle Luna, Author of The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion)

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To act is to modify the shape of the world (for good or bad).

~ Jean-Paul Sartre (Quoted by Elle Luna, Author of The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion)

Note: The words in bracket are mine.

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Food for Thought

Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.

~ Howard Thurman (Quoted by Elle Luna, Author of The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion)

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Food for Thought

When you play with new tools and methods, you will literally activate parts of your mind that have become hard to reach over time.

~ Elle Luna (Author of The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion)

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When you're stuck, when you need a jolt, when you crave to see things from a new perspective, it's time to play.

~ Elle Luna (Author of The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion)

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《我的手指头》

刚刚心血来潮即兴创作了这首歌。这首歌的节奏轻快，歌词简单。我觉得重点不在于歌词简不简单，因为简单的歌词也能打动人心。基本上，这算是一首疗伤歌曲。这应该是我写的第一首快节奏的疗伤歌曲吧。

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Lessons Learnt

1. You could be the best employee in your department/company. But as long as your supervisor does not like you or feels that you are a threat to him/her (because of his/her own insecurities), you can expect that he/she would rather keep those who are incompetent or lousy than to keep you.

2. There is no guarantee that you will get to keep your job or get a promotion at work just because your boss likes you (in the romantic sense).

3. If your boss likes you (in the romantic sense) but if you do not reciprocate, you can expect that he/she may turn nasty or he/she may not want to keep you, even if you are the best employee.

4. It may not be a good thing to be liked by your supervisor/boss, if he/she is of the opposite gender or if he/she is a homosexual.

5. Being pretty/handsome or charming may not be a good thing, unless you are prepared to use your good looks or charm to your advantage and face the possibility of betraying your conscience in the process.

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Food for Thought

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.

~ Rumi Poet (Quoted by Elle Luna, Author of The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion)

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Food for Thought

All too often, we feel that we are not living the fullness of our lives because we are not expressing the fullness of our gifts.

~ Elle Luna (Author of The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion)

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Food for Thought

It seems that to receive the physiological benefits of laughter, you need to keep that funny bone well oiled.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

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Food for Thought

Laughter is a tranquilizer with no side effects.

~ Arnold Glasow (Quoted by Mart Olsen Laney, Author of The Introvert Advantage)

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Food for Thought

Confidence needs to come from what is inside us, not what we do outside.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

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...when you base your confidence on who you are, instead of what you accomplish, you have created something that no one or no circumstance can ever take away from you.

~ Barbara de Angelis (Ph.D.), Author of Confidence: Finding It and Living It (Quoted by Marti Olsen Laney, Author of The Introvert Advantage)

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Food for Thought

Dive headfirst into fear and you'll come out the other side.

~ Megan Washington (Australian musician/songwriter)

The quote is taken from http://iamfearless.com.au/story/megan-washington/?utm_campaign=MEGANWASH&utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=Social.

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A Redesigned Life: A Life of Possibilities

I have wanted to write a book since many years ago but I have not gotten down to writing it yet. (I admit I am a procrastinator:( ) I plan to use the title of this blog post as the title for my book, should I finally get to write it. To me, a redesigned life has to start from 'redesigning' one's thoughts and it has to cover all aspects of one's life.

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Food for Thought

...growth means feeling a little bit new to yourself. An insulated life may protect you from unpleasant feelings, but it also limits you from having experiences and meeting people, both of which might help you and bring you delights you never imagined or thought possible.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

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我只不过是你生命中的一个小插曲, 一个过客罢了。。。而她才是那个会陪着你一辈子的女人。。。难道你没有发觉自己离不开她吗??? 她无形中已经成为了你生命不可或缺的一部份了。。。她不只是你事业上的好伙伴，也是那个跟你心灵相通的女人。。。你和她见面的次数相当频繁，而且很明显的你心里依然留着她的位子。。。你明明还是很喜欢她。。。我曾问自己能够接受这样的你吗 ? 我理性的答案是我不能够。。。因为这样的你太让我没有安全感了。。。难道你不知道女人注重的是安全感吗??? 我不否认自己曾经很在意你跟她见面的次数太过频繁， 也曾经很在意你常常似乎有意无意的'隐瞒'你跟她见面的'讯息'，还有你们之间的互动。。。但是刚才在脸书上又看到你跟她见面的照片时，我心里却是少了那份妒忌，也少了那份伤感。。。或许是因为我对你已经释怀了吧。。。又或许是因为你明明知道我想要的工作跟你目前的行业有关，而你却完全不原意帮我牵线。。。我在想。。。我是否能够接受这样的你 ~ 一个袖手旁观的你??? 我理性的答案是我不能够。。。你应该把聘请私家侦探来跟踪我的钱存起来，用在你跟她的未来。。。毕竟你根本就不可能放下她。。。你也不可能会为了我而跟她断绝所有往来。。。

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最近在某个部落格看到自己被该部落格的owner (???) 毁谤的事件。。。很明显的是他根本就是做贼心虚, 心里有鬼。。。不然为什么不敢让读者留言呢???!!! 我本来是要留我的comments的, 但却发觉完全不能留，because the blog owner (???) has apparently made it such that no comments are allowed...这个人实在太可怕了!!! 我始终认为清者自清。。。人在做，天在看。。。我相信该blog的owner会有报应的。。。不是不报，只是时辰未到。。。

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Food for Thought

Happiness is not a station to arrive at, but a manner of traveling.

~ Margaret Lee Runbeck (Quoted by Marti Olsen Laney, author of The Introvert Advantage)

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Food for Thought

Our temperament tends to be peace-loving and honest, so the tenets of many religions reflect our values.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

So true...

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我是无法接受一个知道我被欺负了却不把它当一回事，或不原意站出来替我挣回一口气的男人。所以，在感情方面，是时候让一切归零了。。。

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If you interview for a particular job, and if the big boss likes you but the one you are supposed to report to doesn't like you or has insecurity issues, you may not get the job.

 



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Food for Thought

From an article on yahoo website, it says that there are four types of introversion (Check it out at https://sg.news.yahoo.com/research-suggests-4-types-introverts-210822741.html). I know I am more of a mix of two types...

 





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Food for Thought

With the right mindset, our students will likely find success in life, but without the right values...the success may come at the expense of society at large.

~ Assoc Prof Ben Leong Wing Lup, (NUS) Department of Computer Science (Quoted by The Alumnus, Jul - Sep 2015/Issue 102)

 



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I love to read a local doctor's blog. His blog posts generally are funny and he often uses Singlish. Check out his blog at http://sgdr.blogspot.sg.

 

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I think I will start using my blog as a gratitude journal, besides using it to talk about my songs, etc.

 

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今天是我的生日，收到了家人和朋友的祝福 :) 妹妹买了生日蛋糕给我。。。一班朋友通过whatsapp捉弄我、跟我开玩笑。。。这样的生日也算挺不错的。。。虽然没有男朋友:(， 也没有了工作，但至少还有家人和朋友。。。本来有朋友要帮我庆生，但因为生病了:( ，所以得婉拒她。。。没有了之前工作地方所带给我的压力，照理说我应该会比较健康。。。但不知道为什么就是突然间感冒了:(

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Sometimes, I really can't stand those men who have been sending PIs to check on me. It's bad enough that they do that, especially given the fact that I treasure my privacy and I value moments of solitude. Worse still, it seems that at least one of them is trying to get my friends involved. Doesn't he realise that by doing so, he could be jeopardising my friendship with them??? If he really wants to know me better, he should come to me directly, NOT through any third party!!!



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Thankful

今天又遇到一位贵人。。。感动加感恩。。。最近似乎常有贵人出现:)。。。

 



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Food for Thought

The capacity to be alone is also an aspect of emotional maturity.

~ Anthony Storr (Quoted by Marti Olsen Laney, author of The Introvert Advantage)

 



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感觉自己越来越幸运了。。。上星期六，我拿我的 Samsung tablet 去 service centre, 因为battery好像坏了。。。今天去 collect 的时候，服务员告诉我他们帮我换了battery, 同时也帮我换了LCD screen。。。Normally during warranty period, LCD screen (as far as I know) is not covered. That means I was supposed to pay, but I was not asked to pay. Something was actually wrong with my old LCD screen (in addition to having some scratches) but that was not the reason why I had sent it to the service centre. They were thus not obligated to change it for me but they changed it nonetheless, and FOC!:) 觉得自己真的越来越幸运了。。。感恩。。。

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家庭越来越幸福了。。。感恩。。。



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很感激生命中的贵人。。。一路走来，庆幸自己有这些贵人的相助。。。



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刚刚在网上观看了《莫非这就是爱》下一集的预告片，当中的一位女演员就跟女主角大概说了这样的一句话：一个能帮你解决问题的男人才是适合的对象。目前的我认同这句话。最近被职场上邪恶的小人陷害而丢了工作，我觉得非常委屈。。。若有男人愿意为我挣回一口气 （除了那没用的MT之外），我应该会很感动。。。也应该会觉得他就是那个适合自己的男人。。。

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I am in the process of redesigning my life...

 



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Despite whatever that is happening on the outside, 我的内心是平静的。。。

 



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My Thoughts

I hope to start doing something for women (and girls), particularly women  (and girls) in neighbouring countries who are in vulnerable situations - women (and girls) who are targets of human trafficking rings. Besides children, women have a special place in my heart (not because I am a woman). Reading news of women (and girls) being sexually exploited or raped stirs up deep emotions of anger in me (not because I was ever in those situations) and I know I have to do something for them. The last time I did volunteering work was some years ago, when I volunteered to tutor a Chinese student from Taiwan. Now that my health is getting better, I think it's time for me to start volunteering again. But before I can do significant amount of volunteering work, I must first make sure that I am in tip-top condition physically.

 



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Food for Thought

"Right-brained" and "left-brained" dominant introverts display different talents, behaviors, and limitations.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 



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Food for Thought

If you are more right-brained, you may tend to:

~ Interpret body language easily

~ Have a good sense of humor

~ Improvise

~ Deal with several problems at once

~ Use hands a lot in conversation

~ Notice patterns and think in pictures

 

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 

So true...

 



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昨天在整理东西的时候看见了这张贺年卡。。。觉得好温馨。。。尤其是因为我很重视快乐的感觉。。。一个人的时候，也是可以快乐的。。。因为真正的快乐是发自内心的。。。或许下一首我会写的歌的歌名就叫做《一个人的快乐》。。。:)

 

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Food for Thought



Energy conservation is also why we are very interested in other people but sometimes prefer to observe others rather than join them.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 

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Food for Thought

Introverts aren't unsocial - they are just social in a different way. Introverts need fewer relationships, but they like more connection and intimacy. Since it takes a great deal of our energy to engage with other people, we are reluctant to need to spend too much energy on socializing. That's why we don't enjoy idle chitchat.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 

YES! I'm definitely NOT antisocial, although that seems to be the general impression people have of me.

 



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Food for Thought

Rather than bring self-centred, introverts are often really the opposite. Our ability to focus on our internal world and reflect on what we are feeling and experiencing allows us to understand the external world and other human beings better. What appears to be self-centredness is actually the very talent that provides the capacity to understand what it's like to put ourselves in someone else's shoes.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 

So true!

 



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今天，我的牙医让我感动。:) 这两天也有其他让我感动的人与事。除了要感激那些让我感动的人之外，其实我也该感激那些职场上的小人，因为他们的存在让我学会了保护自己等等（除了他们的小人烂招术），也让我发现其实我是被保护着的。。。人在做，天在看。。。是真的。。。

 



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Food for Thought

Counter to our stereotypes of introverts, they are not necessarily quiet or withdrawn, but their focus is inside their own heads. They need a quiet, reflective place where they can think things through and recharge themselves.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 

So true...

 



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Food for Thought



He (Carl Jung) thought introversion and extroversion were like two chemicals: When they are combined, each can be transformed by the other.
~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 

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Food for Thought

Where we fall on that (energy) continuum predicts how we derive our life energy. People on the more introverted end of the continuum focus inward to gain energy. People on the more extroverted end of the continuum focus outward to gain energy.

~ Marti Olsen Laney (Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 



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Food for Thought

Democracy cannot survive without the guidance of a creative minority.

~ Harlan F. Stones (Quoted by Marti Olsen Laney, Author of The Introvert Advantage)

 



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中国梦想秀



刚刚在网上观看了中国梦想秀。。。令我好感动。。。（http://maplestage.com/episode/109267/中國夢想秀+20150520+s7+老歌新編讓大家耳目一新/）

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Food for Thought

The emotional waves that often ride the tide of the young person's cognitive and decision-making abilities are often present, and your surfing skills, even when the emotional tides are high, can serve you in continuing to help the young person swim to his or her destination.

~ Sylvie Naar-King & Mariann Suarez (Authors of Motivational Interviewing with Adolescents and Young Adults)

 



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觉得自己越来越幸运、幸福。。。最近遇到了几个贵人。。。感恩。。。很感激他们。。。感觉好像自己的生命有了新的变化。。。是好的变化。。。希望在不久的将来会有新的突破、新的起点、新的方向。。。我知道、也相信我的未来会很精彩。。。而且会跟一般人的不一样。。。because I know there is a greater purpose for my existence...

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Interesting...It's so true...http://www.voglia-di.it/do-you-want-to-know-me-better-get-to-know-your-hands-today-g7339-page2.html

 



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I really can't stand it when people think that they can deceive me easily!!! I may not look smart but please don't assume that I'm stupid!!! It's SO offensive!!!

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Food for Thought - Motivational Interviewing (MI)

MI is a collaborative, person-centred form of guiding to elicit and strengthen motivation for change (Miller & Rollnick, 2009)...it is a gentle, respectful method for communicating with others about their difficulties with change and the possibilities to engage in different, healthier behaviors that are in accord with their own goals and values to maximize human potential.

~ Sylvie Naar-King & Mariann Suarez (Authors of Motivational Interviewing with Adolescents and Young Adults)

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I really hope that NCSS will step in again and do a thorough 'clean-up' at the organisation that I work at.

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我的想法

小人很可怕; 有暴力倾向的小人更可怕。偏偏很多慈善机构似乎就是很喜欢凭请这样的人。难道这些慈善机构的领导层不知道很多中途转换跑道的人都没有什么好心肠吗? 难道他们不懂这些中途转换跑道的人很多时候都是因为被裁退等等原因才想进入慈善机构的吗? 后者很多时候都不是基于想帮助不幸的人才想加入慈善机构的。 难道领导层真的不懂吗? 难道慈善机构因为欠缺人才或有空缺就该随便凭请人吗? 至少该有基本原则吧? 不应该因为欠缺人才或有空缺而随便凭请人吧?  真可悲。。。

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So true...except for the 2nd statement. (Taken from http://quikapps.org)

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Moving my life forward in the right direction makes me feel so alive and it somehow acts as an energy booster.:)

 



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Food for Thought

No matter how remote a possibility is, it is still a possibility.

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Food for Thought

如果你真正喜欢一个人，你会很原意为对方付出。And if you are in a position to help but yet not willing to do so, then you really need to ask yourself: 我是真心喜欢对方吗? 或只是想占有对方罢了? 

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Food for Thought

Make the most of introverts' strengths - these are the people who can help you think deeply, strategize, solve complex problems, and spot canaries in your coal mine.

~ Susan Cain (Author of Quiet)

 



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Food for Thought

Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center. So we lost our center and have to find it again.

~ Anais Nin (Quoted by Susan Cain, Author of Quiet)

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I was enjoying two of my favourite hobbies simultaneously - reading and listening to a song - just a while ago. 如果每天都能做自己喜欢做的事，那该多好。。。

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Food for Thought

Unleashing a passion can transform a life...

~ Susan Cain (Author of Quiet)



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Food for Thought

Well-developed talents and interests can be a great source of confidence for your child, no matter how different he might feel from his peers.

~ Susan Cain (Author of Quiet)

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Food for Thought

Research from a field known as "person-environment fit" shows that people flourish when, in the words of psychologist Brian Little, they're "engaged in occupations, roles or settings that are concordant with their personalities."

~ Susan Cain (Author of Quiet)

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《樱花草》

这首歌超好听的， 歌词也蛮有意思的。我好喜欢!:)

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Food for Thought

在第9集的《好想谈恋爱》，一位男演员跟一位女演员说：好的主管能够让你大开眼界，坏的主管能够让你从挫折中成长。我同意! 我有遇到好的，也有遇到坏的。所以我同意这个说法。



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《幸福的模样》

[幸福的模样，是怎么一个样？] 这就是《幸福的模样》的第一句。。。算是一首快歌 （原本没打算把它创作成一首快歌，反而是有想过要把它创作成一首抒情慢歌）。。。我很少写快歌。。。但是一般上，我都喜欢我所写的快歌。。。感觉比较悦耳。。。





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Food for Thought

Some charities such as the one I'm working at seem to like to employ people with 'questionable integrity', who'll resort to underhand and unscrupulous means, without thinking twice, just to get rid of someone who's upright and above board. Ironically, some of these people seem to think that despite their evil inclinations, they'll still be protected by their gods or by something else. And even more ironically, some of them still think they'll go to heaven when they exit from this world. Do they really think they can escape retribution (or bad karma) or judgement despite all the despicable things they've done and their evil inclinations???!!!

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Money that has been given to the organisation I work at for the purpose of pay adjustment for social workers has never been used for the said purpose. There are so many malpractices at my workplace. Sigh... Obviously, the management has not learnt its lesson from the previous saga. I think it's time for NCSS to step in again...

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Colleagues who don't deserve to get promoted get promoted anyway. Colleagues who aren't suitable to be HODs get to be HODs (because of their connections) anyway. Colleagues who don't deserve unusual increments get them anyway. All my social work colleagues (including the HOD and Deputy HOD) who aren't suitable to be social work professionals get recruited and get to stay on anyway. The very few good ones (including me) get trampled upon and/or are treated like trash!! (天理何在？)And all of these things are happening because of my ED! I'm sure he won't do the same things he has been doing at my workplace with his own company!! Why? Because if he does, he'll be making very huge losses and gaining a bad reputation for his company! 

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Food for Thought

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed.

~ Carl Jung (Quoted by Susan Cain, Author of Quiet)

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表面上的关心与发自内心的关心是有区别的。。。或许只有拥有智慧或拥有敏锐的第六感的人才能察觉得到吧。。。

 



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Food for Thought



"Emotional labor," which is the effort we make to control and change our own emotions, is associated with stress, burnout, and even physical symptoms like an increase in cardiovascular disease.
~ Susan Cain (Author of Quiet)

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虽然我脸皮厚，但我也会有羞涩的时候啊，尤其是碰到自己喜欢的男人。。。难道男人不懂这个简单的道理吗？？？哎哟！真伤脑筋！

 



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开始找回了健康 （虽然还没完完全全健康），算是一个新的起点。。。希望过去因为健康欠佳而失去的种种，能够一一的弥补、得回。。。

 



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Food for Thought

...there are three key steps to identifying your own core personal projects. First, think back to what you loved to do when you were a child...Second, pay attention to the work you gravitate to...Finally, pay attention to what you envy...

~ Susan Cain (Author of Quiet)

 

What did I love to do as a child? Well, as a child, I was a daredevil and I was more gutsy than my older brothers...I enjoyed adventures and exploring the unknown. At the same time, I enjoyed reading books quietly at one corner...

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Food for Thought

Conforming to office norms that are clearly wrong is just not right, even if you conform because of peer pressure or because you want to be accepted. Conforming, in this context, can eventually kill your conscience and bring on judgement. It's only a matter of time...

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Food for Thought

Just now, a colleague actually told me she had bought a box of non-halal candies for a Muslim colleague as a farewell gift!!! I couldn't believe it! Such insensitivity!!! And she actually said it was ok!!! But thankfully, after I gave her a piece of my mind, she changed her mind.

 

In a multi-racial country like Singapore, we have to exercise cultural and religious sensitivity. We cannot afford to be insensitive! And Chinese especially cannot afford to be insensitive, because we are the majority in Singapore and Muslims (Malays) are the minority. Otherwise, we may disintegrate as a society. 

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I saw a vision of the late Mr Lee Kuan Yew looking down and smiling when the state funeral procession was taking place.



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Food for Thought

If you want to be popular, you will misgovern.

 

~ The late Mr Lee Kuan Yew (Quoted by Mr Sidek Saniff, former Senior Minister of State, in his eulogy)

 

So true...

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 Some of my Western friends who have never lived here for any period of time have sometimes self-righteously proclaimed, no doubt after reading the cliches in the media, that they could never live under the "stifling and draconian" laws that we have.

 

My answer to them is simple: Are you the sort to urinate in public when a toilet isn't available, the sort to vandalise public property, the sort that would leave a mess in a public toilet that you share with others?

 

In short, are you a civilised person who wants to live in a civilised society? Because the things you cannot do in Singapore are precisely the sort that civilised people should not do anyway. If you are, you have nothing to fear.

~ Calvin Cheng

 

(See more at: http://www.straitstimes.com/news/singapore/more-singapore-stories/story/lee-kuan-yews-passing-stories-recap-the-week-national-mo#sthash.EDYfoJqe.dpuf)

 

 



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Food for Thought

May Singapore never squander the legacy of Lee Kuan Yew.
~ Quoted from an article written by Sahana Singh

Check out the full article in http://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2015/03/25/critics-call-singapore-an-autocracy-but-i-never-felt-more-free-than-when-i-lived-there/

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~ Sent to me by a friend via Whatsapp (Photo showing Mr Chiam See Tong paying his last respects to the late Mr Lee Kuan Yew)

 

I've always liked Mr Chiam...He's someone whom I've high regard for...

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To our dearest Papa Lee

We are eternally grateful to you and for you.
You will always be loved, cherished and fondly remembered.
Our assurance to you: we will continue to stand together as one united people, regardless of race, language or religion....
We believe that you are in a better place now.

Undeniably a proud post-independent Singaporean,
XXXX
~ Written by a friend
 

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Mr Lee Kuan Yew

Dr Lee Wei Ling wrote:

"The health of men often deteriorates after they lose their wives. The security officers and I watched Papa getting more frail every day. His facial features were grim, perhaps to mask his sadness and grief. I took one day at a time and persuaded him not to undertake any arduous trips to America or Europe. China and Japan were near enough and manageable. I was pleased to get him out of the house.

By July this year, Papa’s health had stabilised and even begun to improve gradually. I reminded myself of the analogy I used for him – titanium. Titanium is light but strong. It can bend a little, but it will not snap unless it is under overwhelming force.

Physically, we all eventually succumb. Papa is also mortal. But he is psychologically stronger than most people. Life has to carry on, and he will keep going so long as he can contribute to Singapore.

As I was halfway through writing this article, I went out of my room for a drink of water and saw a note from Papa addressed to all three of his children. It read:

“For reasons of sentiment, I would like part of my ashes to be mixed up with Mama’s, and both her ashes and mine put side by side in the columbarium. We were joined in life and I would like our ashes to be joined after this life.”

An inspiring and moving testimony of not only a great leader but also a great husband...

~ Sent to me by a friend on Whatsapp

So sad...Mr Lee Kuan Yew had passed on...Check out this video: https://sg.news.yahoo.com/video/prime-minister-lee-hsien-loong-012150586.html.

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Food for Thought

...high-reactive children may be more likely to develop into artists and writers and scientists and thinkers because their aversion to novelty causes them to spend time inside the familiar - and intellectually fertile - environment of their own heads.

~ Susan Cain (Author of Quiet)



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Mr Lee Kuan Yew

I may not be a PAP supporter and I may not agree with some of the policies that the former PM, Mr Lee Kuan Yew implemented (and some of the things he purportedly did) during the time when he was the PM. Nonetheless, he is someone whom I have respect for, mainly because Singapore would not be what it is today without him. And so it will be sad news if he passes on...

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刚刚谈到的那位男主角也对同一位女主角说：。。。当爱情让你伤心的时候，也许这就不是适合你的爱情。我非常同意!

 



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在第65集的《我的宝贝四千金》，其中一位男主角跟其中一位女主角说，当右先生（Mr Right）喜欢上一个人的时候，他不会让那个人受到（任何）委屈。。。他就是那一个对的真命天子。Well said!

 



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在第14集的《俏摩女抢头婚》，其中一个男演员跟其中一个女演员讲了以下这句话：为了自尊，不能诚实的面对自己的感情。。。最后真的错过彼此。。。

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Can you accept a man who's still keeping in touch with his ex-girlfriend (or a woman whom he has/had feelings for)? No...



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Food for Thought

Sometimes what you see may not be the truth and what you hear may not be the truth. It takes someone who is discerning to discern the truth.

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